A Virginia homeschooled student spoke out after being kicked out of a local homeschool prom because a group of dads were allegedly lusting after her.
The story went viral after being posted on Wine and Marble, a blog run by Hannah Ettinger. Hannah’s sister Clare, a 17-year-old homeschooled senior, wrote of her prom experience on the blog.
According to Clare, her boyfriend purchased tickets to the prom in advance, and she was excited about her dress choice for the evening. She complied with the homeschool association’s dress code, which stated that dresses had to be “finger length.”
When she arrived at the prom, one of the organizers stopped Clare to inform her that her dress was too short. After Claire demonstrated that the dress was finger length, the woman allowed her to continue on into the prom. When she got inside, the teen said she was shocked by what she saw.
“When I got into the ballroom I laughed, because I was surrounded by girls in much shorter dresses then me, albeit they were shorter, and therefore stood out less in the crowd, but it was still frustrating,” Claire wrote.
“I joined my group of friends, (there were six of us), and told them what happened, they were all appalled, especially considering we’ve been attending this prom all four years of high school and usually wore much shorter dresses then we chose this year. We were also a little grossed out by all the dads on the balcony above the dance floor, ogling and talking amongst themselves.”
Suddenly, Clare said, she approached by the same woman and asked to step outside. When she did, the woman told her that some of the fathers complained that she was dancing inappropriately and that her dress was too short. The teen made it clear that she wasn’t dancing at all and once again showed the woman that her dress was the appropriate length, but the advisor ignored her explanation. Clare and her friends were ultimately kicked out of the prom, and despite being told that they would get refunds for their tickets, only Clare got her money back.
“I was told that the way I dressed and moved my body was causing men to think inappropriately about me, implying that it is my responsibility to control other people’s thoughts and drives,” she said.
Following the incident, the Richmond Homeschool Prom’s Facebook page was flooded with people expressing their disgust at the situation. Administrators deleted all the comments, before removing the page altogether.